The Holiday Blues



Cue the romantic holiday movies and the syrupy love songs describing snow filled days spent by the fireplace with your boo. And lest we forget the Jared, Zales, and Kay jeweler commercials which I’m sure pressures unsuspecting men into proposing to their girlfriend during the Christmas holiday.  It is enough to make singles puke.  Or, is that just me?

Seriously though Christmas and the holidays in general are suppose to be a season of Hope, Love, Thankfulness and Giving. It is a time when Christians around the world celebrate the birth of Christ.  It’s the season of miracles. But for many, it’s anything but.  For so many people it is the beginning of the holiday blues.  The time when depression sets in and lasts straight through New Year’s Day.

It’s the time when loved ones are missed (regardless of how many years they have been gone). For some, a chair that was occupied last year will be empty this year. For others it’s a reminder that they are still single and everything around them makes them hate that very fact.  It’s a reality for so many that should not be taken lightly.

For me, well, yes it’s another holiday season that I will spend single. I’m sort of over that reality though.  I mean, truth be told I’ve been single for a very long time.  I was thinking when was the last time I actually spent a holiday season with someone special.  I had to go back to the year 2000!!!! Kind of pitiful if you ask me.  Not because it’s been that long. But because I’ve been in relationships since then but every Christmas after 2000 was spent alone.  #UtterlyRidiculous #WhatWasIThinking

It’s also another holiday season without my mom and dad. As a kid we didn’t have much.  My mom did the best she could and Christmas was not high on the list.  I remember the first Christmas I was home from active duty.  I wanted us to have a nice Christmas and I spent an absurd amount of money to ensure that.  It was fabulous!!  But as I look toward Christmas 2015, I’m just reminded that they are not here….and I miss them terribly.

But I won’t sit at home depressed or anything. Even if I’m home I understand that regardless who is no longer here, Jesus is always with me.  That gives me comfort.  That keeps me pressing forward.  That is enough for me.

But for so many, it’s not. So as you prepare for the holidays…as you are shopping and preparing dinner and thinking of the great time you will have with family, I ask that you stop…even if it’s just for a second…and think about those who will be alone, those who are homeless, those who are sad and depressed and may be contemplating suicide, and say a pray for them.  And if you know anyone that will be alone this holiday season, open your door and your heart to them.  You never know how you blessing someone else may in turn be a blessing to you.

~ Hotep


About Shannon D. Robinson

Shannon Robinson Born and raised in Baltimore, Maryland (Go Ravens!!!), I discovered early on that I am very opinionated and passionate about my opinions. This has brought on the realization for me that I think differently from most people and it took some time for me to come to grips with that unique side of me. Writing for me is often an escape. A place I can go with my thoughts and opinions and not have to concern myself with offending anyone or not agreeing with someone. My thoughts and opinions are mine and God’s and I know that He doesn’t judge me on them. My writing is a personal journey that allows me to be transparent with self (and sometimes others) as I believe that nothing I have experienced or gone through on this journey called life was meant for me to keep to myself. Somewhere there is another woman who is experiencing or has experienced the very same things, thoughts, and feelings I have and it is my prayer that my story in some small way helps her to see that she too can come through. While at the same time giving God glory for his wondrous works. I appreciate you for stopping by and sharing in my journey as I try my absolute best to navigate it as smoothly as possible; even when I come across detours and bumps along the way. ~ Hotep

2 responses »

  1. Shannon, I am actually looking forward to this holiday season, which is surprising. I started praying for comfort in September because I knew these winter months would be challenging.
    I contacted members of my choir and found a fun table for Thanksgiving dinner. Then I booked a hotel room Christmas eve thru Boxing Day and I will have my pajamas, slippers and comfy blanket. I plan on watching the Hallmark Channel all day and Hulu all night with a bucket of chicken and a bottle of Veuve Clicquot!! I’m #BeingGoodToMe and refusing to let anyone/thing bring me down.

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